…That sometimes you must let go of negative people?
And cover your ears while they fall from that cliff screaming.
Ok. Not exactly what I meant. I don’t personally advocate letting people “go” if it means they will fall to their death. But sometimes it is a in our best interest… metaphorically… to let them go from your life.
First I should say that this is not an exercise in arrogance. It is not as though by letting someone go I am claiming any sort of superiority. I am no more or less of a human being on this planet than anyone else. We are all the same in foundation… but become different as a result of environment, experience, habit and choice. In varying degrees through my life I have found myself in places and situations that did not enrich me or help any part of the spiritual being I tend to spend most of my time chasing. The lessons I have learned have come rather often from holding on to people who did not belong around me.
You might ask… who am I to decide they do not belong? Who would I be if I did NOT decide that? We are all completely capable of choice. I find for me that most of the time I do not make choices out of fear of repercussions. I have come to know as years have gone on that I have the choices nonetheless. I could make them if I wanted to understand that every decision has its consequence (and that doesn’t have to be a negative.) Essentially there are no “wrong” choices… just the result of whatever it is you choose.
I have held on to unhealthy souls in my life for various reasons. Sometimes because I felt that I needed them. Sometimes because I more or less refused to see that they were toxic. Sometimes because I was toxic myself and unable to notice anyone else well enough to make such a decision (the lower companion periods.) Time and experience has changed how I see the world, the people around me and my own life. I am able to see something that isn’t working and move it away from me if for nothing else but to preserve the happiness and positive nature that I want to have within myself.
If that sounds pollyanna ask yourself how good you are to anyone else if you are not in a good place yourself. If you are an empath or not in a completely solid place in your life… anger or negatives within others will effect you detrimentally. You will soak it in like a sponge and happiness will be a word that sort of pisses you off… nothing more.
These days if someone is around just to spread their own doom and gloom… at any extreme, it is not hard to choose to move away. Especially in an age of the internet. My latest experience dealt with a woman whose very existence is to debate and rebut anything that anyone says. If you like something she will disagree because she is that person. On Saturday I wrote on an internet site that I had seen a movie that I liked. Several people came on and said they were looking forward and shared other aspects that were very positive. She decided that she would counter it all by saying she HEARD the movie was so-so. Fine. Then she needed to come back and say that she doesn’t like Tarantino. Ok. But she had to do more… she had to insist that Tarantino was overrated. I asked her to cease the negatives. She complained that she was not allowed to disagree with me. I told her… perhaps if she had actually seen the movie…. and then stopped.
This is where I began to feel her energy within me. So I put her out… on ignore. She is not important enough to me to keep around and I will be better for it. It isn’t something new… it is who she is. Now she can have eternal debates and take her “dumps” somewhere else.
And I feel better. She is not evil… I do not hate her… or even really dislike her as a person. I just don’t want to argue with her or listen to her grouse about the world and whatever is in it.
Sometimes you’ve just got to let go of negative people.
Be Happy. Be Well. Be.