…That you should write yourself a valentine first?
I hope you all had a very nice Valentines day.
Although I am not one to buy into crass commercialism and its manipulation to purchase what should, realistically, be something from the heart… I do tend to nod my head in agreement with those who find this holiday a bit overwrought with guilt factors and the painful reminder for some that there is no “valentine” to celebrate with.
There really is nothing wrong with the idea or concept of the “valentine” as a representation or reminder of love or infatuation. I suppose for me, like the New Year’s resolution, I find it hard to understand why this sort of event or feeling should be relegated to one day per year? Why is it not something that comes when the time is right and the situation is clear? For instance… for those here on February 14th who are between relationships it could be more of a stressful day or a sad reminder than it is a day of chocolate, flowers and red, pink and white cards.
I know, I know… it is an industry. Cards, flowers, chocolate and romantic restaurants are making a killing on a day like today. Our economy is always in need of this sort of spending… isn’t it? Shouldn’t we be looking at the crass commercialism as the other side of the coin that keeps this fine nation on its feet?
But what if Valentines Day was to be decided by the individual? What if Someone were to meet their true love on February 15th? Are they shit out of luck because the “day” has passed or is it not recommendable that they could promote their own individual holiday for the person that they meet… whenever it is time to do so?
For this very reason I don’t believe in the New Years resolution simply because I believe that I should be making changes for health and growth throughout my year. It’s a lazy man’s excuse to only make resolutions one day a year and… then not try again until the next no matter what sort of success record you retain from the resolutions you’ve already made.
I did not suffer the holiday today. I actually celebrated it in two different ways. First and foremost I wrote myself a valentine. Without the love and admiration for myself there would be no chance of my having an honest relationship with anyone else out there in the world. I sat down and I reminded ME that I am someone I would hang out with, whose company I enjoy, whose progress as a human is remarkable… and whose mistakes and defects are all simply future projects and challenges to work with.
Sealed with a Kiss.
For those of you who didn’t feel that sort of warmth, whether from yourself or a loved one (or both)… I remind us all that the ONE day that the calendar gives us for such a holiday is there for the industry alone. We, as individuals can have the valentines day (or days) that we want whenever we choose to do so.
So… on February 15th… April 2nd… June 25th… August 17th…. November 3rd… or whatever day it feels right.
Happy Valentines.
Be Happy. Be Well. Be.